Relational Psychology · 90 secs
Emotional Availability & Vulnerability Test: Free 12-Item Diagnostic
Are you emotionally available or defensively walled off? Free 12-item clinical screener based on the Gottman Intimacy Scale and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
Scientific Overview
Emotional availability refers to the psychological capacity to experience, articulate, and connect with feelings of vulnerability and mutual interdependence without fleeing or erecting defensive walls.
What This Assessment Evaluates
- Identifies vulnerability tolerance and fear of being emotionally seen
- Measures conflict shutdown, silent treatment, and defensive stonewalling
- Assesses autonomy panic, fear of engulfment, and counter-dependent lone fortress traits
- Provides relational repair protocols, boundary scripts, and intimacy expansion exercises
How to Take This Test
- Answer honestly based on your experience over the past 7 days.
- There are no right or wrong answers; trust your initial emotional reaction.
- Receive your personalized score breakdown, mascot insight, and custom journaling prompts immediately.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does it mean to be emotionally unavailable?
It means having an unconscious protective barrier against deep intimacy, characterized by withdrawing during conflict, avoiding talks about future commitment, or intellectualizing feelings.
Can someone become emotionally available?
Yes. Emotional availability is an adaptive relational pattern shaped by attachment conditioning. Through nervous system regulation, honest journaling, and gradual vulnerability exposure, people can develop earned security.
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