Attachment & Relational Psychology · 90 secs

Intimacy Avoidance Test: Free Intimacy Anorexia & Emotional Guarding Screener

Framework: Dr. Doug Weiss (Intimacy Anorexia) & Dr. Harville Hendrix (Imago Therapy) · 100% Private & Free

Do you pull away when someone gets close, hide behind busyness, or find flaws in partners? Free 12-item clinical screener based on Doug Weiss's Intimacy Anorexia model and Harville Hendrix's Imago Therapy.

Scientific Overview

Intimacy avoidance (or intimacy anorexia) is the active withholding of emotional, physical, and spiritual intimacy from a partner or close companion. It functions as an unacknowledged armor against vulnerability, abandonment, or engulfment.

What This Assessment Evaluates

  • Measures affection withholding, avoiding eye contact, and emotional distancing when connection deepens
  • Assesses busyness evasion, task saturation, and workaholism deployed to avoid one-on-one intimacy
  • Evaluates silent blame, flaw-finding defense mechanisms, and pre-emptive relational detachment
  • Provides micro-vulnerability exercises, nervous system safety anchors, and relational repair steps

How to Take This Test

  1. Answer honestly based on your experience over the past 7 days.
  2. There are no right or wrong answers; trust your initial emotional reaction.
  3. Receive your personalized score breakdown, mascot insight, and custom journaling prompts immediately.

Frequently Asked Questions

What is intimacy anorexia?

Intimacy anorexia, a concept developed by psychologist Dr. Doug Weiss, is the compulsive withholding of emotional, relational, and physical connection to avoid being hurt or engulfed.

How does busyness act as an intimacy barrier?

By continually overloading schedules with meetings, chores, and digital stimulation, individuals create a plausible excuse to avoid quiet, vulnerable, and deep emotional conversations.

Medical Disclaimer

Medical Disclaimer: This instrument is designed for personal self-awareness, emotional tracking, and educational purposes. It is not a clinical diagnosis, psychological treatment, or a substitute for licensed psychiatric care.

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